Why Confidence Isn’t What You Think It Is
In my experience people generally think confidence is something you either have or you don’t.
Some believe it can be learnt, but only if you’re one of the fortunate souls whose parents can afford to send you to private school where learning to be confident is par for the course.
For others the ability to be confident, they believe, stems from a natural personality trait which they simply don’t possess.
They assume people are naturally confident, while others like themselves, are destined to feel nervous, hesitant and anxious as they progress through their life.
This can have a hugely detrimental impact on their life and they never quite manage to reach their full potential, instead living in the shadows of their true capabilities.
Well let me share something with you. After many years working with clients as a transformational hypnotherapist, I see something very different.
Confidence is rarely the real issue.
What most people are experiencing is a pattern, a deeply ingrained belief about themselves that has been quietly shaping how they think, speak and behave since they were a child.
These beliefs were often formed through:
A comment from a teacher
A moment of embarrassment
Being told not to show off or speak too loudly.
It begins with one little comment someone made, then builds over time until your subconscious mind starts telling you:
“I’m not the confident one.”
“I’m better staying in the background.”
“I shouldn’t draw attention to myself.”
The problem is these beliefs often remain long after the moment that created them, and they eventually become “your real”.
They quietly limit capable, intelligent people in their work, relationships and the opportunities that are presented to them.
However, the good news is that these patterns can be changed.
When we begin to understand how the mind works and how our subconscious stores these beliefs, change becomes possible.
“Confidence isn’t something you force. It’s something that emerges when the mind no longer feels it needs to hold you back.”
Over the coming editions of this blog I’ll be sharing insights into how confidence really works, why so many capable people struggle with it, and what can be done to genuinely help people move forward.
If confidence has ever felt like something other people have but you don’t, you’re certainly not alone.
And more importantly, it’s something that together we can change.
If you’re struggling with a lack of confidence and you’d like to explore how I use mindset to build people’s confidence you can download my free worksheet “Lead Your Mind To Confidence In 5 Minutes.”
You can also book a no-obligation call with me via this link.
Cat x