Do You Practice Reframing Your Thoughts?

Reframing your thoughts is a popular technique and one you’ve probably heard of. It’s often suggested as a way of helping you to stay in a positive mindset rather than dwell on things you don’t have control over.

Basically, when a thought feels heavy or unhelpful, you reframe it. Flip it. Find another perspective.

And in many cases, this can feel like a relief. Like breathing space. 

Reframing is essentially the art of consciously choosing to look at a situation in a more helpful light. Instead of “I failed at that”, we might reframe it as “I learned something valuable”. Instead of “They don’t like me”, we reframe it as “Maybe they’re just having a hard day.”

But, this might surprise you.

I don’t use the word ‘reframing’ with my clients. 

In fact, I don’t even AGREE with it!

Because reframing suggests both versions of the story are equally valid. That the unhelpful thought and the new thought are just two sides of the same coin. 

So What Do I Say To My Clients?

What I see, in every single client I work with, is that the most unhelpful thoughts are not just unhelpful. They’re lies.

Yes, you read that right. LIES!

Not because we’re dishonest, but because our minds aren’t wired for truth or happiness. Our subconscoius mind is wired purely for survival, so it lies to us all the time in order to “help us survive”.

Our subconscious is like an overprotective bodyguard, constantly scanning for danger. The issue comes when it perceives the danger is simply trying something new. Maybe speaking up, being seen or trusting yourself.

Over time, the mind picks catastrophising thoughts like “I’m not good enough,” or “This will go wrong,” or “They’ll think I’m stupid.”

And those aren’t just negative perspectives. They’re limiting lies designed to to keep us safe but STUCK.

So when I work with clients I don’t ask them to simply reframe their thoughts. I ask them to dig deeper.

What’s The Original Supportive Truth?

I ask clients to find the original supportive truth instead of the lie their subconscoius is telling them. This isn;t about having a fluffy affirmation. It’s not a sugar-coated hope. It’s a grounded, powerful, truth. One they can actually believe.

The real truth is that we all come onto this planet with 10/10 natural innate confidence.

We are all the survivors of the survivors of the survivors, we have exactly what it takes to THRIVE!

There is no baby who looks out at the world and LIES to themselves by saying “maybe I don’t belong here” or “maybe I don’t have what it takes.”

Every baby cries with the belief that they are worthy of all their needs being met, because they ARE worthy.

Once you uncover and let in this TRUTH, everything shifts.  It’s the difference between, “I could try to think I’m worthy” and “I know I’m enough because I’ve lived through hard things and I’m still standing.”

To quote Henry Ford: “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.”
So why not choose the truth that supports you?

Your thoughts create your feelings, which create your actions, and your actions create your life.

Here is the fundamental truth.

You are enough, you always have been, you always will be, and you have everything you need within you.

Let’s stop entertaining limiting lies and start building from supportive truths.

If you need my help to “re-set” to your original truthful programming and take leadership of your mind once again, you know where I am.

With love

Cat x